Dating (and Breaking Up) in the Millenium

So. Without giving you too much detail into my life outside this blog, I am going to share with you a personal story that actually happen a couple of weeks ago. However, it was not until just now when I was retelling the story to a friend, that I realized what a sign o' our times this situation was.....

I had been dating someone casually for a few months. While I was on a trip, we hadn't really talked to eachother, except through his blackberry, my computer, and both our cellphones with text message capabilities. We were keeping in touch until.....and I will spare you the dets why, but I sent a "could be construed as" break-up text. He responded with an email from his blackberry that solidified that my text was..... indeed..... a breakup text. I then sent an email reaction to his breakup response that pretty much left nothing else to say.

So there you have it. A relationship (I guess I will use that label) ends with no words actually being spoken to either party involved, but a LOT being said.

My question now ( and I reralize this sounds very 60 Minutes fluff investigative report of the week) .... But was all this telecommunication crap an improvement?

I don't know about every situation, but I gotta tell ya, I think technology was a good thing here. And I will list the reasons why.

1. I have a tendency to analyze, ney... over analyze, conversations.

How great was it that I had the emails to refer to when I was trying to decide his "tone"? Big Benefit. Also, when I was telling the "break up" story to my friends (which all girls do), it was awesome to be able to quote exactly from the email what was "said" instead of trying to remember the exact wording. A few close and trusted friends actually got to read the emails.

2. Complete Thoughts and Ideas

I got to say everything I wanted to get out. If that had been a phone or in person breakup, we would have interupted eachother. We would not have had time to gather our thoughts, and make sure the other person understood exactly what we were trying to say. You also run the risk of one person hanging up or just walking away. No one can walk away from an email.

3. The Obvious Emotional Reasons

No one's yelling. No one's crying. No one's looking at the other person, and in disbeilief that they are actually saying what is coming out of their mouth!

In conclusion (I use this phrase, because I was trying to answer a question here...Was it better that we broke up over email and text messaging, instead of in person?) I have to say "Yes". I like the way this dating saga ended. Complete . Clean. Easy. Pulling off a band aid.

I hope the rest of my relationships that end are as painless as this one. I will now continue my search for, what everyone is looking for.....the relationship that never ends. Wish me luck in that quest.......

What I see outside my window.....

This will be fun to do every now and then depending on where I am.

Right now, I an sitting at my computer in our workroom of the hotel on Miami Beach, and I am looking at 2 peeps kite surfing on very choppy, but very inviting sparkling blue water. It's brilliant...and I don't mean that in the British way (beautiful or very good). I mean it really is brilliant. The water is reflecting the bright red and yellow of the kites, and the sun is shining down on the ocean. I almost need sunglasses, and I am sitting inside.

I forgot how there are still some fabulous beaches in the continential US. Maybe I am jaded because when I think of beaches, I don't think Florida anymore. What a shame.

Remember how I said I change my mind a lot?

So, I'm on Team Obama now.

I made that decision literally 5 minutes before I walked in the United Church of Christ (how ironic) where I was to vote in the primary election last Tuesday. Hilary RC had slowly been moving her way out of my favor for about a month, but I never expected myself to jump ship. Seriously.

I still like my girl Hil, and would dance at the party if she gets the nomination, but something just attracted me to Obama. I think it was that he voted against the war from the beginning. I was also against it all along, and never bought into the WMD bullshit that everyone was throwing around 4 years ago.

Maybe I just decided we need someone totally new to the White House. We had 8 years of someone whose father had been there. Perhaps subconsciencely I had an issue with the fact that Hilary had already lived there. Who knows why I make the choices I make.

Anyway.....I am happy with my new team. Its raising a lot of money very quickly. Obama had a great showing yesterday in the 3 state primaries. And, it looks like it will be McCain from the Red side. I think I will enjoy watching Obama take on that crusty old war mongor in a debate. It will probably be entertaining. I hope McCain's combover falls to the side and hangs a little on National T.V.

Thank God (again how ironic) Romney's out. I know a lot of Blue staters didn't think that was a good thing, because McCain might be harder to beat with his "very liberal for a conservative" views, especially on social policy, but I really didn't like the Mormons' main man, and am happy he packed up his tent and went home.

Also, you know what else I am enjoying??? Ann Coulter. There I said it. I know no one who knows me would ever hear me say that I am enjoying anything about Ann Coulter, but since its probably going to be McCain, does that mean she is going to be on Team Hilary like she promised???

(Backstory: Super Conservative and outspoken radio host Ann Coulter - picture a female version of Rush Limbaugh - said awhile back that she was going to vote for Hilary if McCain got the nomination)

Let the super exciting election season keep on keepin' on. And I thought I would be bored when football ended. Ha!

Random Song Stuck in my Head that I only Know one Line to

What's Left of Me Nick Lachey

Don't read too much into this though. I know the last couple weeks of my life have not been a carnival, but this song is not a reflection of my world. I actually heard it in the elevator of the hotel on my way to work this morning. I am a little embarassed to say that I have always enjoyed the tune. Its catchy!

My Intent

I just reread that title, and it sounds like I am about to tell you which school I have signed to play college ball for...... If that were true, it would be Ivy League, but I'm not sure which school. Actually, it might be another school. That discussion might have to be a blog in itself. I can see the title now. If I were to play College Football, where would I Play"

Anyway, what I mean by "my intent" is that I have had some peeps tell me that I haven't blogged in awhile. The response to that is that I was in the 'Lou. I think, unless something is really itchin' me to write, I am pretty much only going to write my blog when I am on the road. My thoughts come a little easier when I am either sitting through mindless meetings, or stuck at an info desk in a hotel lobby somewhere. Plus, more blog worthy things tend to happen to me while I am traveling.

So...here I am in Miami. Specifically, Miami Beach. I love this place. it is a myriad of culture, art, arcitecture, and alcohol...all at a balmy 86 Degrees. Awesome. My hair curls up nicely here. There is always something to entertain. (In fact, Miami is in my top 10 of people watching cities) If it weren't for my inclination to "glisten" in climates like this, I would be in heaven.

So...look for some insights in the next week or so, while I enjoy a break from the St. Louis late winter temps.